CAN YOU SAY NO?

Small word, BIG DIFFERENCE

Saying "no" is one of the most difficult but yet liberating thing to do. Are you a people pleaser and can't ever say "no" and then you have to do things you don't even want or like. If you are feeling overstretched and overwhelmed, it's time learnt the art to say "NO"

1. Remember that your desire to please may be linked to poor self-esteem. Consider why other people's requests always take preference over your own needs.

2.When you asked to do something, check in with yourself before answering. Ask yourself why you feel obligated to say "yes".

3. Lighten up. Saying no doesn't have to  be serious, when nobody asks you to do something that you don't want, answer to that person with laughter that, "sorry you have your skydiving course today". Laughter can diffuse a difficult situation.

4. Make a list of people to whom you have most difficulty to say "no". When confronted with one of them, try a little honesty. Explain you have been saying "yes" more often that you'd like, and that you are starting to feel a little resentful. Detail your reasons: "I feel guilty when I say "no" to your constant requests for loans. But I am a little cash-trapped myself right now".

5. Remind yourself of the worst that can happen. People might react negatively at first, but in time they will have greater respect for the clear boundaries you have established with them.

6. If your family, friends and colleges are used to you always saying "yes", they will use that every time they need something. So learn to be firm towards them and with yourself as well. Often we think that we will say "no" to something but ones in front of that person we say "yes" and why is that... What are you afraid of.  Stand up for yourself and say "no" when you want to, don't be a people pleaser. You will gain others respect sooner or later and be an example for others too, by daring to say "no".

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